“When the student is ready, the teacher appears. When the student is truly ready, the teacher disappears.” There seems to be confusion about who really coined the phrase. Whether we give credit to Lao Tzu or Buddha, remember this concept when you are decision making, change is on the horizon or there is something you need to learn.
COINCIDENTALLY…
John and I are both currently in the midst of decision making. His are major business decisions, while mine are not quite as pressing. I will admit, decision making is not my strong suit. I spent my morning perseverating on how to handle a decision I need to make. Coincidentally, I stumbled upon a You-Tube video that pertained to my dilemma and helped clarify things.
TEST TIME
The woman in the video (my teacher for the morning) is Marie Forleo. I give her credit for the following ideas. She said that if you are struggling with a decision, there are 4 tests you can give yourself and see if it decreases the anxiety about your decision.
HOW DO YOU FEEL?
The first test is a physical test. When you contemplate your decision, how does it make you feel physically? Do you feel expansive or contracted? You may feel dread or heaviness or perhaps you feel lighter, bigger and better once you decide.
WCS
This stands for worst case scenario. How will it affect you mentally, physically, emotionally, and financially if the worst-case scenario occurred? Would you feel embarrassed or humiliated? She suggests you write down the steps you would take to get back on your feet. Deal with the WCS in advance. If you decide it is beyond what you are willing to risk, don’t do it.
BCS
Let’s look at the flip side which is the best-case scenario. What are the payoffs is the BCS would occur? What can you learn and how can you grow? Maybe you can start living your dream. There could be financial or creative upsides and freedom you’ve never known. Write a detailed concrete list of the BCS. How does it feel? Should you take a chance and say yes?
WORK IT
Marie’s mantra is “Clarity comes from engagement, not thought.” She calls this the “Work it test.” Are you able to try this change or opportunity on for size or give it a “road test” before you commit? If you are mulling over a decision, try it on for size.
NOT PERMANENT
Remember, most decisions you make are not permanent and can be reversed. Maybe not always easily but many are. Remember, change is constant, growth is optional. Open yourself up for a new experience and opportunity. Don’t be afraid of growing pains. This too shall pass.
HDD
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